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Things I Learned Post-Breakup

Moving back to Manila meant many things – one of which was to revisit the places that once held memories. Not necessarily good ones, but what the hell.

I knew right then that I was okay because these places didn’t hurt me, nor did they make me sad. Eventually, I felt excited to create better ones. But I had a few realizations as I walked along the crowded North Edsa mall on a Super Sale Sunday:

That you could be with someone who you grew up with in the same country and city, went to the same school, knew the same people, be raised in the same faith and still have nothing else in common with them.

That the wrong kind of love has an allure like no other.

That just because the next love isn’t as passionate or crazy or full of drama, it doesn’t mean it’s any less. It could even be more.

That connections are hard to come by, and we often take it for granted, only realizing it’s value when we find out that not everyone we meet connects with us in the same way others have.

That there is a love that lets you be.

That infatuation burns out but friendship remains.

That too often we hold the wrong kind of love in high esteem and neglect the kind of love we deserve.

That there is a certain effort you put in for the right kind of love to manifest but when it does, it just flows – and you have to keep that door open to let it through.

That you have to be awake to embrace it.

That you have to fully let go of the old love before you can fully realize what true love really is, and how wonderful it is.


That you need to learn how to be alone without being lonely. And being alone is actually really fun and exciting.

+ recent ones:

“You learn a lot about someone by the way they leave you.”

Third wheeling is fun. Third wheeling is a skill. Third wheeling has its perks (like free roundtrip tickets to El Nido.)

If your partner dictates your choice of clothes, girl that ain’t ‘caring’. If your partner dictates your social life, girl that ain’t ‘caring’ etc. etc. (just google emotionally abusive relationships.)

and lastly, HUGOT SELLS. 

Yep, these epiphanies came to me while navigating through a crowded mall with kids screaming left and right while I was dying to push slowpokes out of the way.

Ah, love is patient, love is kind…


P.S This has been sitting in my draft for almost 7 months. So to my friends who like to tease me about having a low EQ, I hope you learn a thing or two you little punks. Happy Valentines.

“Pay attention to whom your energy increases and decreases around, because that’s the universe giving you a hint of who you should embrace or stray from.” —Anonymous




2 thoughts on “Things I Learned Post-Breakup

  1. I love it! It’s what I need right now…. especially that I’m confused about love… I’m in love… but its hard to let go. For I’ve love that person for so many years already… and until now… I still don’t know what to do…

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