I’ve scheduled this post to publish at the exact time I was born. Ok maybe not, there’s a little bit of confusion on my records if I was born at 12 or 1 am but I’ll stick to 1 am. Anyway even though age is really just a number I feel like sometimes the numbers contain wisdom (if you’re open to it.) Here are some things I’ve learned the past 25 years:
- You will naturally feel afraid with anything outside your comfort zone, even if you’ve been going out of it every so often.
- You can’t make friends out of everybody. Some are just meant to be acquaintances.
- Keep a paper trail at work. It will cover your ass when your co-workers or boss end up being jerks.
- At some point in your life, you will have to make your own rules – not your parents’ or friends’ or the adults you’ve been surrounded with.
- Know right from wrong – when making rules, take all the positive and identify what you could do better than your adult counterparts.
- Reexamine your relationships – sometimes you don’t realize you’re reflecting what’s around you (and sometimes they’re all drama.)
- Maintain a standard and deal breakers in a relationship.
- Having a high moral standard does not mean you’re just picky. (If cheating on your partner because you’ll change when you’re married is the “standard” then that’s a very low one. Leave.)
- Your dreams may seem superficial and trivial to others but it is yours. Don’t let them make you change your mind to please them.
- Your weight does not equal your value. It should be the least of your concerns unless it affects your health.
- People who negatively comment on your weight are rude.
- Some people will want you to be like them, and deem you wanting if you’re nothing like them. Don’t believe them.
- At some point in your life, self-help books actually help. Haters gonna hate.
- Contrary to popular belief, confidence isn’t always inherent. Most of it is built up from childhood. You will go through many things that will slowly erode your confidence – and you won’t even notice it until it’s gone. It’s okay. Dust yourself up and build again.
- Everyone’s crazy. Some people are just better at hiding it.
- Don’t be a pushover. Don’t be mean either.
- don’t judge someone based on their online image. if someone reaches out to you offline, give them a chance. the best surprises come in pretentious packages. oh.
- Sometimes the best way to deal with people is not to deal with them.
- You don’t have to answer questions you’re uncomfortable with.
- There’s a dry shampoo that actually works.
- Mental health is as important as physical health. seek help. speak out.
- Some people won’t like you just because you represent something to them. perception.
- Cherish your family and friends.
- you know you’ve moved on when you just laugh out loud.
- you don’t need to have an answer right away when you’re happy living in the questions.
These lessons are applicable to my life and are a result of my past experiences. Maybe it won’t work for others but if you do find an ounce of wisdom in it then by all means take it.
P.S Thank you mom for the birthday flowers from last year. They just get better and better ❤ love you!